Mistakes guys make on dates

There are so many different kinds of mistakes guys make on dates...

From showing up too late to showing up too early. From dressing up too fancy to dressing like a slob. Some guys even make a bunch of different mistakes all at once! So here's my list of ten bad mistakes that many many men make, and what you should do instead:

1) Spending a lot of money on a first or second date
This is mistake I learned about from dating coach Jake Vandenhoff. See I never thought it was a problem to spend too MUCH money on a date with a girl. I thought it was only wrong not to spend enough money. But as it turns out spending too much money might actually be even worse!

2) Trying to "go dutch"
Going dutch is a terrible idea. I know, I know, in number one I told you not to spend too much and now I'm telling you not to be cheap... But here's the thing, you are the man, so you've got to pay the tab. Just don't go nuts taking girls you don't know to the finest steakhouses before you know them at all unless you are a millionaire. Just take her to a moderately priced restaurant.

3) Dressing like somebodies dad
Even if you are a dad, you can't wear dad jean and old ugly Bill Cosby sweaters . Just be casual, wear some jeans and buttondown, or if you are under 30 just wear a cool t-shirt.

4) Not saying anything
When you are out with a girl you must talk to her. if you can't think of anything to say just talk about her and make observations about her.

5) Acting too happy
acting happy seems like it would be a good idea, but really it can make you appear like a loser who has never been on a date before. I'd say act just kind of happy.

6) Not complimenting her at all
If you are going out with a classy girl, then she has no doubt put some effort into her appearance for the evening, so tell her she looks good!

7) Being too stiff
This goes along with not saying anything. These are actually probably the top two mistakes guys make on dates. You've got to talk PLUS you've got to keep things loose and easy. Don't worry about saying the wrong thing or looking foolish, you've got to let your hair down.

8) Not flirting
If you want to be "more than friend with your date you need to let her know you are interested, by... hello ever heard of flirting?

9) Not setting up date #2
Date number 1 is the perfect time to set up date number two. Here's how you do it: when you are talking to her about something you both like to do, tell her you want to do it with her and set a date!

10) Not making a move
Another big one... for lord's sake, if your date is smiling at you a lot or even just a little make your move already!

I hope you enjoyed my list of the top ten mistakes guys make on dates. I'll be back with another blog post soon!

How To Get A Date

I'm starting this blog because the guys I work with don't seem to have any idea how to get a date and I want to help them out.

I don't really hang out with them much outside of work, but I'm pretty sure that none of them has been on a date since I started working with them 3 years ago!

Recently I've noticed that every Monday morning they are all eager to hear about the girl or girl I hung out with over the weekend. Seriously, yesterday morning I came in a little late because it was snowing and all three them were anxiously waiting for me, at the water cooler no less.

It's like they are trying to live vicariously through me or something and it's beginning to make me feel uncomfortable.

The thing is, I don't want to bring this up with them, because that would be awkward. what would I say?:

"Hey mike y'know how you never go on dates or have a girlfriend? Y'know how people wonder if you are gay because they've never seen you with a woman? Well guess what, I going to teach you how to get a date!"

I couldn't do that. Maybe I'll just send them an anonymous email... I wanted to create this blog and then force them to read it, but I don't know how that would work out.

Now I guess I might be sounding like a cocky jerk here, but really I'm not. I'm just kinda good with women, and I feel like my genius is being wasted on myself!

Here are some of the basic ideas I want to share about how to get a date:

1) Girls like it when you ignore them
I don't know why, but for some reason if you just ignore a girl and don't look at her at all, you'll notice that she will start staring at you and getting all anxious over why you aren't staring at her like every other guy. This only works for beautiful women though, women who every guy stares at.

2) Look at her sexually
When you finally do look at the woman you want to date, don't just stare at her face and smile like a dopey guy. What you've got to do is look at her like you'd like to just jump all over her and you can hardly hold yourself back. She will be able to tell and if she likes you it will make her very excited and attracted.

3) If you want to get a date, you need to ask women out regularly
The main reason the guys at my work can't get dates is that i don't think that they ever ask women on dates. I don't know this for sure, but I really don't think they ask anybody out. Ecspecially Phil, he's the oldest. He's the oldest, and I don't think he's invited a woman on a date in like 20 years. Y'know what, maybe he's never been on a date.

You definitely need to ask for dates, but if you ask around, they are easy to get! Next time I'll talk more about these 3 guys: Phil, Chris, and Tommy, they really are 3 funny dudes. So until next time, remember these 3 rules and go talk to some women!